Bereavement is one the most difficult times in our lives. While the first response to it is usually one of shock and disbelief, the heartache of losing someone or something we deeply care about can trigger a wide range of emotions such as emotional numbness, anger, guilt and regret, depression, exhaustion and a sense of slowing down.
The pain can seem colossal and we might feel no option to recovery. However, although the process is difficult, if you do not seek support, grief can cause long term psychological issues.
There is a cycle of bereavement that normally starts with denial. This is one of the first steps in the grieving process, as we struggle to accept the reality of the loss. This may manifest itself for example as the recurrence of making that cup of tea for the person we lost, over and over again, like if they were still with us.
Anger and guilt follow, as we feel the need to find the blame for the loss.
As the anger settles, it slowly turns into a huge sadness that will cause symptoms of insomnia, irritability, appetite problems, loss of motivation, physical pain and social withdrawal. This is, when you become depressed and feel that life has no meaning. This depression must not be overlooked.
Most people find that with time, in a healthy cycle of grief, they can overcome loss with acceptance. This means feeling that life must go on, and recognizing your need to live a normal life. Smiling, laughter and socialization will slowly become part of your everyday life again, turning your loss and grief emotions less intense and frequent. When you less expect it, you will have then regained your energy and motivation to live.
Of course, this process can take a while, each person is different, and it cannot be rushed. Bereavement counselling is a safe and confidential place where you will be able to explore your thoughts, feelings and emotions you are dealing with on either a short- or long-term process, solely depending on your own state of mind.
Our therapists and counsellors will be able to help you find coping mechanisms for you to access and go through each stage of your grief until you feel completely healed and ready to live your life again.