A healthy level of self-esteem is important in life but traumatic events can have a substantial impact on our sense of self-worth. Then there are issues from our childhood and our family environment which can also take their toll upon our ability to think positively about ourselves.
Persistent negative thinking can create a vicious cycle and can lead you to avoid taking on all kinds of activities and tasks because you fear failure. This can sometimes lead to a catch 22 situation as cutting yourself off from life’s challenges can leave you feeling even more hopeless and unhappy.
If you are experiencing exhaustion, lack of motivation, feelings of failure, or thinking negatively about your abilities and opportunities, and wishing life was better then you are probably suffering from low self-esteem and a lack of confidence, and you may benefit from counselling that could help get you back on track. Therapy can help you explore how your low self-confidence may have evolved from your earlier childhood experiences or more recent events, as well as reviewing how your day-to-day life is being affected and how you would like things to change.
Your therapist can give you the tools to reach these goals in a safe and supportive therapeutic environment. They can also teach you the techniques of cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) to help improve your self-esteem. CBT helps you to recognise the relationship between your thoughts, feelings and behaviours, based on the theory that it is not what we experience but how we interpret events that determine how we feel. By changing our negative interpretations of ourselves, we can change how we feel and improve our self-esteem at the same time. Together with your therapist, you will redefine your hopes and expectations, explore background factors and begin your journey into developing inner strength and a strong core of self-belief.